nest okcallbacks so they're called one by one.

relay.go

@@ -35,7 +35,8 @@ type Relay struct {
 	challenge                     string       // NIP-42 challenge, we only keep the last
 	noticeHandler                 func(string) // NIP-01 NOTICEs
 	customHandler                 func(string) // nonstandard unparseable messages
-	okCallbacks                   *xsync.MapOf[ID, func(bool, string)]
+	okCallbacks                   map[ID]okcallback
+	okCallbacksMutex              sync.Mutex
 	subscriptionChannelCloseQueue chan *Subscription
 
 	// custom things that aren't often used
@@ -51,7 +52,7 @@ func NewRelay(ctx context.Context, url string, opts RelayOptions) *Relay {
 		connectionContext:             ctx,
 		connectionContextCancel:       cancel,
 		Subscriptions:                 xsync.NewMapOf[int64, *Subscription](),
-		okCallbacks:                   xsync.NewMapOf[ID, func(bool, string)](),
+		okCallbacks:                   make(map[ID]okcallback, 20),
 		subscriptionChannelCloseQueue: make(chan *Subscription),
 		requestHeader:                 opts.RequestHeader,
 	}
@@ -203,11 +204,13 @@ func (r *Relay) handleMessage(message string) {
 			subscription.countResult <- *env
 		}
 	case *OKEnvelope:
-		if okCallback, exist := r.okCallbacks.Load(env.EventID); exist {
+		r.okCallbacksMutex.Lock()
+		if okCallback, exist := r.okCallbacks[env.EventID]; exist {
 			okCallback(env.OK, env.Reason)
 		} else {
 			InfoLogger.Printf("{%s} got an unexpected OK message for event %s", r.URL, env.EventID)
 		}
+		r.okCallbacksMutex.Unlock()
 	}
 }
 
@@ -275,30 +278,34 @@ func (r *Relay) publish(ctx context.Context, id ID, env Envelope) error {
 	}
 
 	// listen for an OK callback
-	gotOk := false
+	gotOk := make(chan bool, 1)
 	handleOk := func(ok bool, reason string) {
-		gotOk = true
-		if !ok {
-			err = fmt.Errorf("msg: %s", reason)
-		}
-		cancel()
+		err = fmt.Errorf("msg: %s", reason)
+		gotOk <- ok
 	}
 
-	r.okCallbacks.Compute(id, func(oldValue func(bool, string), loaded bool) (newValue func(bool, string), delete bool) {
-		if !loaded {
-			// normal path: there is nothing listening for this id, so we register this function
-			return handleOk, false
+	r.okCallbacksMutex.Lock()
+	if previous, exists := r.okCallbacks[id]; !exists {
+		// normal path: there is nothing listening for this id, so we register this function
+		r.okCallbacks[id] = func(ok bool, reason string) {
+			handleOk(ok, reason)
+
+			// and when it's called the mutex will be locked
+			// so we just eliminate it
+			delete(r.okCallbacks, id)
 		}
-
+	} else {
 		// if the same event is published twice there will be something here already
-		// so we make a new handleOk() function that concatenates both
-		return func(ok bool, reason string) {
-			oldValue(ok, reason)
-			handleOk(ok, fmt.Sprintf("published twice: %s", reason)) // and we inform the developer
-		}, false
-	})
+		// so we make a function that concatenates both
+		r.okCallbacks[id] = func(ok bool, reason string) {
+			// we call this with an informative helper for the developer
+			handleOk(ok, fmt.Sprintf("published twice: %s", reason))
 
-	defer r.okCallbacks.Delete(id)
+			// then we replace it with the previous (and when this is called it will nuke itself accordingly)
+			r.okCallbacks[id] = previous
+		}
+	}
+	r.okCallbacksMutex.Unlock()
 
 	// publish event
 	envb, _ := env.MarshalJSON()
@@ -308,14 +315,20 @@ func (r *Relay) publish(ctx context.Context, id ID, env Envelope) error {
 
 	for {
 		select {
-		case <-ctx.Done():
-			// this will be called when we get an OK or when the context has been canceled
-			if gotOk {
-				return err
+		case ok := <-gotOk:
+			if ok {
+				return nil
 			}
+			return err
+		case <-ctx.Done():
+			r.okCallbacksMutex.Lock()
+			if cb, _ := r.okCallbacks[id]; cb != nil {
+				cb(false, "timeout")
+			}
+			r.okCallbacksMutex.Unlock()
 			return fmt.Errorf("publish: %w", context.Cause(ctx))
 		case <-r.connectionContext.Done():
-			// this is caused when we lose connectivity
+			r.okCallbacks = make(map[ID]okcallback)
 			return fmt.Errorf("relay: %w", context.Cause(r.connectionContext))
 		}
 	}
@@ -479,3 +492,5 @@ func (r *Relay) close(reason error) error {
 var subIdPool = sync.Pool{
 	New: func() any { return make([]byte, 0, 15) },
 }
+
+type okcallback func(ok bool, reason string)