we should be doing this since years ago: force an EOSE if the relay refuses to give us one.

pool.go

@@ -304,6 +304,9 @@ func (pool *Pool) FetchManyReplaceable(
 		})
 		return discard
 	}
+	if opts.MaxWaitForEOSE == 0 {
+		opts.MaxWaitForEOSE = time.Second * 4
+	}
 
 	for _, url := range urls {
 		go func(nm string) {

relay.go

@@ -7,6 +7,7 @@ import (
 	"fmt"
 	"iter"
 	"log"
+	"math"
 	"net/http"
 	"strconv"
 	"sync"
@@ -404,6 +405,18 @@ func (r *Relay) PrepareSubscription(ctx context.Context, filter Filter, opts Sub
 	// we track subscriptions only by their counter, no need for the full id
 	r.Subscriptions.Store(int64(sub.counter), sub)
 
+	// start counting down for dispatching the fake EOSE
+	if opts.MaxWaitForEOSE != math.MaxInt64 {
+		if opts.MaxWaitForEOSE == 0 {
+			opts.MaxWaitForEOSE = time.Second * 7
+		}
+
+		go func() {
+			time.Sleep(opts.MaxWaitForEOSE)
+			sub.dispatchEose()
+		}()
+	}
+
 	// start handling events, eose, unsub etc:
 	go sub.start()
 

sdk/replaceable_loader.go

@@ -123,6 +123,7 @@ func (sys *System) batchLoadReplaceableEvents(
 	wg.Wait()
 	multiSubs := sys.Pool.BatchedQueryMany(aggregatedContext, relayFilter, nostr.SubscriptionOptions{
 		Label:          "repl~" + strconv.Itoa(int(kind)),
+		MaxWaitForEOSE: time.Second * 3,
 	})
 	for {
 		select {

subscription.go

@@ -6,6 +6,7 @@ import (
 	"fmt"
 	"sync"
 	"sync/atomic"
+	"time"
 )
 
 // Subscription represents a subscription to a relay.
@@ -62,6 +63,10 @@ type SubscriptionOptions struct {
 
 	// CheckDuplicateReplaceable is like CheckDuplicate, but runs on replaceable/addressable events
 	CheckDuplicateReplaceable func(rk ReplaceableKey, ts Timestamp) bool
+
+	// a fake EndOfStoredEvents will be dispatched at this time if nothing is received before.
+	// defaults to 7s (in order to disable, set it to time.Duration(math.MaxInt64))
+	MaxWaitForEOSE time.Duration
 }
 
 func (sub *Subscription) start() {